T HE MOST IMPORTANT MESSAGES THAT HUMANS DELIVER TO ONE ANOTHER often come in just three words. Think of “I love you.” or “There’s no charge.” or “And in conclusion.”
One of the phrases that I’ve found most useful is this: I”ll he there”
If you’ve ever had to call a plumber over a weekend, you know how good these words can feel. If you’ve heard them after being stranded on the road with car trouble and used your last quarter to call a friend, you’ve known the feeling too.
“Grandma, I’m graduating in June!” I’ll be there. “Honey, I am stuck at the office
and can’t get to the airport to meet my sister l” I’ll be there. “Mom, the baby cries all night, and if I don’t get some sleep I’ll perish!” I’ll be there.
One person who really knows how to “be there” is Elizabeth, the Queen Mother of England. During the Blitz on London in 1940, she was asked whether the little princesses, Elizabeth and Margaret Rose, would leave England for their safety. The queen replied: “The children will not leave unless I do. I shall not leave unless their father does, and the king will not leave the country in any circumstances whatever.”
I’ll be there.
Another important three-word phrase is one of the hardest to learn to say—I know it was for me. It is: Maybe you’re right. If more people would say “maybe you’re right,” the marriage counselors would go out of business. I know from experience it can have a disarming effect in an argument. When we’re so hung up on getting our own way that we won’t concede on any point, we do ourselves a real disservice.
I must have heard the next phrase a thousand times when I was a little girl and faced a hard decision. Turning to my nanny, I’d ask what I should do. Her response was always the same: Your heart knows. “My heart knows?” I would grumble. “What’s that supposed to mean? I need advice here. I need you to tell me what to do.” She would just smile and say, “Your heart knows, honey. Your heart knows.” But I was an imperious child. I would throw my hand on my hip and say, “Maybe so, but my heart isn’t talking!” To this she would respond, “Learn to listen.” People may suggest what we should do, but for the most part no one will accept responsibility for our mistakes. We have to make our own choices. That’s when we need to listen. Your heart knows.
Psychologists call this “tuning in to ourselves.” Spiritual leaders call it “turning to a higher power.” Whatever you call it, you have the ability to find the right answers for your life. It’s a powerful gift—but you have to learn to use it.
It took me a long time, but I learned that life doesn’t come with a plan. To some extent the page is blank. You may have a rough outline of where you are going, but you won’t get there without making some tough decisions. To this end, you may find these simple, yet profound, words helpful: I’ll be there. Maybe you’re right.
Your heart knows.
VITAL SPEECHES OF THE DAY
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