LOVING YOURSELF


I believe that low self-esteem and fear are the major reasons so many people find it hard to attract the right relationship to them.


AGAIN! I BELIEVE THAT LOW SELF-ESTEEM AND FEAR ARE THE MAJOR REASONS SO MANY PEOPLE FIND IT HARD TO ATTRACT THE RIGHT RELATIONSHIP TO THEM!

 

 We attract to us what we think about. If all the time we think that we are worthless and unlovable, it is impossible (IMPOSSIBLE) to attract the right person to us. If we are fearful and insecure, we tend to insulate ourselves away from the world and miss out on the many opportunities, existing every day, that are always there for meeting other people. We can only overcome low self-esteem and fear by loving ourselves. (That’s right - - - Loving ourselves first!)


There is truth as well as cynicism in Oscar Wilde’s often-quoted remark:


 “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”


Although this might, at first glance, seem like selfishness, it is most vital that you love yourself. You are the only person that you can guarantee you will be spending the rest of your life with. Consequently, you should not only like yourself, but you should love yourself as well. By loving yourself you will gain trust, self-acceptance, and self-worth.


You love yourself by being kind to yourself, by nurturing yourself, by liking yourself, by forgiving yourself. You need to accept yourself as you are now, and allow yourself to become your own best friend. By doing this, you will generate love, not only for yourself, but for others as well.


A useful exercise to help you love yourself is to spend a minute or two each day looking at yourself in the mirror. Become in tune with yourself, and allow whatever thoughts, feelings, or emotions occur to come to the surface. Some will be happy, but others will be sad. Have fun doing this exercise. Make faces at yourself, smile, laugh, and perform funny gestures and movements.


Many people find it hard to do this exercise. We all look at our reflections in the mirror when we are brushing our hair, putting on makeup, shaving, or checking our appearance. However, many people feel that studying themselves in a mirror is simply being narcissistic. The purpose of this exercise is not to simply admire ourselves. We are looking beyond that, and allowing the real person—the vulnerable, real person that usually hides behind the mask of the face—to become visible.


To begin with, you will notice the lines, frown marks, and wrinkles on your face. Things that have always bothered you might be extremely obvious. You might think your nose is too large, or your mouth too small. However in time, you will look beyond these things, and achieve self-acceptance, an inner peace, and a love for yourself and others. (Maybe recognize some family members you even kinda resemble.) This exercise is, in reality, a form of meditation.


Incidentally, I have spoken to a surprising number of people who first saw their soul mates while doing this exercise. When they looked in the mirror, they saw, not only their reflection, but the image of the soul mate they had yet to meet. This is not, not, likely to happen the first, or even twentieth, time you do this exercise. However it is something to have at the back of your mind. The people who experienced this all told me how helpful it had been. They all ............... .





WHAT SHOULD YOU DO IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS IN TROUBLE?


Every relationship has its ups and downs, of course. The important thing is to keep communicating with each other. However, many people find it hard to express any of their feelings. People like this are likely to bottle their pent-up feelings inside, and appear cold and indifferent. Inside they are hurting, of course. However, they have learned over time, that erecting a shield or barrier around themselves helps to protect them from further pain. Be patient, if you are faced with this situation. Take your partner away from his or her familiar environment, and see if you can discuss the situation more easily elsewhere. No matter what your partner does or says, keep expressing your unconditional love for him or her.


You can also express your love to each other in prayer. You do not need to be religious to pray. Anyone can do it. Pray for your partner, and pray for your marriage. You can do this anywhere, at any time. You do not need to be inside a church or kneeling by your bed. You can pray while doing the dishes or driving to work. You can pray whenever you have a free moment. You might choose to say an affirmation prayer, such as: “Divine love is protecting my partner, myself, and our relationship.” Alternatively, you might have a conversation in which you just express all of your feelings and ask for help and guidance.


Henry Drummond called love “the supreme gift” and “the greatest thing in the world.” Every word of his address “The Greatest Thing in the World” is worth reading over and over again, but there are two passages that are particularly relevant when discussing soul mates.

They are:

                              To love abundantly is to live abundantly, and

                              to love forever is to live forever. Hence, eternal

                              life is inextricably bound up with love. We

                              want to live forever for the same reason that

                              we want to live tomorrow. Why do you want

                              to live tomorrow?   It is because there is some

                              one who loves you, and whom you want to

                              see tomorrow, and be with, and love back.

                              There is no other reason why we should live

                              on than that we love and are beloved.


You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments that stand out, the moments when you have really lived, are the moments when you have done things in a spirit of love.


Forgiveness plays an important part in long-lasting relationships. Everyone makes mistakes, and we all tend to blame others for our misfortunes. When we are feeling hurt and vulnerable we are inclined to lash out at whoever we think is responsible . Even the people we love the most - - -especially, those we love the most! . All this does is makes the situation worse.


When we forgive someone for what they have done, we are doing two important things. We are forgiving the other person, of course. More importantly, though, we are releasing all of the built-up negativity and resentment eating away at us like a disease. The sense of freedom that comes with forgiveness is absolutely incredible.




FAMOUS SOUL MATES.


The supreme state of human love is ,.....the unity of one soul in two bodies.





H ISTORY is full of examples of famous couples who were soul mates, even though they, themselves, may not have been completely aware of this. Anthony and Cleopatra, Heloise and Peter Abelard, the Duke and Duchess of Windsor, Queen Victoria and Prince Albert, and Nell Gwyn and Charles II are just a few of the betterknown examples. Although these relationships were all very different from each other, they were all characterized by an incredible bond of love that time and death could not sever. Anthony and Cleopatra died young. Heloise and Abelard were separated for many years. The Duke and Duchess of Windsor overcame enormous difficulties before they could marry. Queen Victoria mourned the death of Prince Albert for decades.


However, there are many more examples of less famous soul mates, and their own stories provide us with intriguing insights into the nature of soul mate relationships.


Robert Browning and Elizabeth Barrett


The story of Robert Browning (18 12-1889) and Elizabeth Barrett (1806-1861) is a fascinating one. They first met when he was thirty-three and she was thirty-nine. She was bedridden, looked older than her years, and was being looked after by her pious father who said lengthy prayers at her bedside every night and forbade her to ever marry.


At the time they met, Elizabeth was a near-recluse, emotionally dependent on her father, and looked forward only to death. She and Browning corresponded for four months before he was able to visit her as she was so concerned about the effect her appearance would have on him. The day after they finally met he wrote to her hoping that he had not offended her or stayed too long. The next day he wrote again proclaiming his love.


The relationship gradually developed. Elizabeth felt totally unworthy of his attent-ion and love. The daily exchange of letters were originally signed “Yours faithfully, Robert Browning” and “Elizabeth B. Barrett,” but gradually became more and more intimate. By August, Robert Browning was calling her “My own, dear-est love.” Towards the end of that month, she told him the sad story of the death of her brother by drowning. In his reply, Robert Browning wrote: “Let me say now----- this only once—that I loved you from my soul, and gave you my life.”


The antagonism of Elizabeth’s father forced them to elope. After their marriage, Elizabeth’s father ceased communicating with her. They settled in Florence where they both became heavily involved with their writing and the local community. In 1849, their son, Robert Barrett Browning, the sculptor, was born. One year later, Elizabeth’s most famous work, Sonnets from the Portuguese, was published. This collection of forty-four sonnets vividly expresses her love and devotion to her Robert, and was written during their two-year courtship. However, she did not present them to him until three years after their marriage. “Little Portuguese” was Robert’s pet name for her. Before they were married Elizabeth had written a poem called “Catarina to Camoens,” which described the feelings of a dying girl, Cat-arina, for her absent lover, Camoens, a Portuguese poet. Robert always associated Elizabeth with Catarina, which is how she received her pet-name. Sonnets from

the Portuguese includes her best-known poem:

                              How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.

                              I love thee to the depth and breadth and height

                              My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight

                              For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.

                              I love thee to the level of everyday’s

                              Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light.

                              I love thee freely, as men strive for right;

                              I love thee purely, as they turn from praise.

                              I love thee with the passion put to use

                              In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.

I love thee with a love I seemed to lose

                              With my lost saints—I love thee with the breath,

                              Smiles, tears, of all my life!—and, if God choose,

                              I shall but love thee better after death.


Elizabeth died in 1861 and Robert returned to London, where he continued with his career as a poet and dramatist. He spent the last years of his life in Venice and died there in 1889. He is buried in Westminster Abbey.


Robert Browning never understood his wife’s interest in Spiritualism but obviously was intrigued with the concept of reincarnation. In “One Word More,” he wrote:

                              I shall never, in the years remaining,

                              Paint you pictures, no, nor carve you statues.

                              This of verse alone one life allows me;

                              Other heights in other lives, God willing.


In “Old Pictures in Florence,” he takes this even further:

                              There’s a fancy some lean to and others hate—

                                         That, when this life is ended, begins

                              New work for the soul in another state,

                                 Where it strives and gets weary,

                                              loses and wins:

                                 Where the strong and the weak,

                                              this world’s congeries,

                                 Repeat in large what they practised in small,

                              Through life after life in unlimited series;

                                 Only the scale’s changed, that’s all.


The last three lines of “Prospice” (meaning “look forward”), a poem he wrote shortly after Elizabeth’s death, is particularly revealing: There a light, then thy breast, O thou soul of my soul I shall clasp thee again, And with God be the rest!


The love affair between Robert and Elizabeth has sometimes almost overshadowed the quality of the poetry they produced. After Robert’s death, two volumes of their letters to each other were published, showing the deep love each had for the other. The famous play, The Barretts of Wimpole Street by Rudolf Besier, is just one of a number of works written about their relationship.


The immediate love bond between Robert and Elizabeth was one indication that they were soul mates, and also proves the old adage “love is blind.” Why else

would Robert, a handsome thirty-one year old man, with a wide circle of attractive women friends, instantly fall in love with a bed-ridden invalid, several years older than him, whose face was ravaged by pain and suffering? Elizabeth delayed their first meeting because of concern about the way she looked. However Robert fell in love, not with the sad person he met, but with a subconscious realization of the very strong bonds they had experienced over many previous incarnations.


The astrological charts of Robert Browning and Elizabeth Barrett also provides a strong indication that they were soul mates. They had major aspects that indicated love and friendship, but also many lesser indications, including Elizabeth Barrett’s Part of Karma being conjunct to Robert Browning’s Sun. The conjunction between the woman’s Part of Karma and her partner’s Sun is also present in the charts of Jackie Kennedy and John F Kennedy, and the Duke and Duchess of Windsor.


C. S. Lewis and Joy Davidman


C.S. (Clive Staples) Lewis (1898-1963), the celebrated author of more than forty ( 40) religious books, such as The Screwtape Letters and the delightful Chron-icles of Narnia series of books for children, seems an unlikely person to have had a soul mate. In 1953 he was a professor of Medieval and Renaissance English at Cambridge University when he met the Greshams, an American couple with two young sons. At this time, C. S. Lewis was leading an orderly, spartan, chaste life, and did not really believe that there was such a thing as love. Shortly after this meeting, the Greshams divorced, and Mrs. Gresham, now calling herself Joy Davidman, became Lewis’ secretary. They married in 1956, but this was purely a marriage of convenience to allow her to continue living in England. Shortly after this, Joy developed a terminal illness. This changed the nature of the relationship and they married again with the blessing of the Anglican church. Miraculously, Joy’s illness went into remission. The couple enjoyed a wonderful two years together before her illness returned and she died in 1960. Lewis wrote a poignant account of his despair in A Grief Observed (1961). Their love affair later became a play called Shadowlands.


In the midst of his grief, Lewis described what Joy had meant to him: “She was my daughter and my mother, my pupil and my teacher, my subject and my sovereign; and always, holding all these in solution, my trusty comrade, friend, shipmate, fel1ow-soldier.” An indication that they were soul mates comes a couple of sentences later when he wrote: “If we had never fallen in love we should have none the less been always together.”



Obviously, it is impossible to work out what karmic factors were at play in this relationship. C. S. Lewis was obviously a sympathetic, caring person. After the First World War he had become intimate with Mrs. J. K. Moore, the mother of a friend of his who had been killed during the war. He began living with her and her daughter while still an undergraduate at Oxford. Over time, Mrs. Moore became more and more demanding and possessive, but Lewis continued to look after her until she died in 1951. Despite this powerful learning experience, C. S. Lewis was still prepared to marry his secretary to allow her to stay in Britain . True love then blossomed only when she was diagnosed with a terminal illness. What an unbelievable tragedy for him to lose his soul mate after just a few years of happiness.

Katherine Mansfield and John Middleton Murry


Katherine Mansfield (1888-I 923) and John Middleton Murry (1889-1957) were also sou1 mates for just a few years. Katherine Mansfield was born in Wellington, New Zealand, and was educated there and in England. In her teenage years she had had a number of tragic love affairs with both men and women. She married in 1909, but left her husband on their wedding day.


Two years latei she met John Middleton Murry, who was at that time editing maga-zines that she wrote for. They began living together in 1912, but it was a free and

open relationship as neither of them believed in fidelity. In 1918, she obtained a divorce from her first husband and married Murry. Over the next few years her reputation as a short story writer increased, but her health, never good, was eroded by tuberculosis . She travelled throughout Europe seeking a warm climate. She died in 1923.


Murry married again in 1924. His second wife, Violet le Maistre, gave him a son and daughter. Like Katherine Mansfield, she died of tuberculosis in 1931. John Middleton Murry’s son, Cohn, considered his father’s second marriage to be “an illusion,” as Murry saw her as a reincarnation of Katherine. Murry married twice more. His third marriage was an unhappy one, but his final marriage (in 1954) was successful. The couple had been living together since 1941, but could not marry until his third wife had died.


It seems that both Katherine Mansfield and John Middleton Murry were both really desperately seeking a soul mate, found each other for a tragically short time, during which they experienced whatever lessons they needed to learn in this incarnation, and then moved on. In retrospect it might seem that Katherine had the easier time, as she was able to learn and progress more quickly, while Murry obviously had more lessons to learn about relationships. However, that is an overly simplistic way of looking at their lives. Only they can really know the lessons they had to learn.


Dorothy Osborne and Sir William Temple


The courtship of Dorothy Osborne and Sir William Temple would be unknown today if it had not been for the remarkable series of letters that Dorothy wrote to him between 1652 and 1654. These letters remained in the Temple family until 1891, when most of them were sold to the British Museum. The letters were first published in 1888. An enlarged edition was published in 1903, and in 1928 the Oxford University Press published the definitive version.


Dorothy and William met in 1648 on the Isle of Wight. She was twenty-one and he was twenty. He was on his way to Paris, but went with Dorothy to Guernsey, where her father was lieutenant-governor. When his father heard about this, he ordered William to Paris, where he spent the following year. The lovers were reunited in London, but again William’s father intervened. He felt that William was spending too much time with Dorothy and not enough time on building a career for himself. Consequently, he was sent back to Europe for another year.


While he was away, Dorothy’s family tried to find a suitable husband for her. They wanted her to marry someone with greater prospects and more money than William. William’s father felt exactly the same. He wanted his son to marry someone with more money than Dorothy. Despite the tension and uncertainty that this created, Dorothy’s letters show a practical approach to the Situation: I cannot promise that I shall be yours because I know not how far my misfortunes may reach, nor what punishments are reserved for my fault, but I dare almost promise you shall never receive the displeasures of seeing me another’s.


It appeared that the two would never be able to marry, and Dorothy wrote to Will-iam, offering to let him go. She was deeply religious and did not want his passion to destroy him: I tremble at the desperate things you say in your letter; for the love of God, consider seriously with yourself what can enter into comparison with the safety of your soul. Are a thousand women, or ten thousand worlds, worth it? No, you cannot have so little reason left as you pretend, nor so little religion. For God’s sake let us not neglect what can only make us happy for a trifle If God had seen it fit to have satisfied our desires we should have had them, and everything would not have conspired thus to cross them. Since He has decreed it otherwise we must submit, and not by striving make an innocent passion a sin, and show a childish stubbornness.


Dorothy’s father died in March 1654, and Dorothy immediately made her longtime unofficial engagement public. Dorothy fell ill with smallpox in November, but was well enough to marry on Christmas Day 1654. Dorothy had a simple recipe for a happy marriage: “If we are friends we must both obey and command alike.”


William had a long and successful career as a diplomat, and Dorothy was able to accompany him on many of his visits to the continent. William’s greatest success was in arranging the marriage between the Prince of Orange and Princess Mary, later to become king and queen of Great Britain. Dorothy and William mixed in the upper echelons of society, and became friends with royalty. Dorothy became a patroness of the arts. However Dorothy always suspected that it was impossible to find permanent great happiness. The couple enjoyed a long and happy marriage, but all nine of their children died before them, seven in infancy, and one by suicide


In 1688, Sir William Temple gave up public life and began a new career in litera-ture. He ultimately achieved fame as an essayist. In his Essay on Poetry he wrote: When all is done, human life is, at the greatest and the best, like a froward child, that must be played with and humoured a little to keep it quiet till it falls asleep, and then the care is over.


Dorothy died in 1695. William died four years later. Jonathan Swift, the famous satirist, knew her well as he had been Sir William Temple’s secretary. He described her as “mild Dorothea, peaceful, wise and great.”



Dorothy and William enjoyed a long and happy marriage. They had obviously already learned their lessons about love in previous incarnations, and were using this lifetime to grow in other ways. However their happy marriage was not simply a gift. It had been earned through a number of earlier lifetimes together, during which they would have learned their required lessons slowly and painfully.


Paraire and Kuini


In New Zealand, the song “Pokarekare Ana” is just as famous, if not more so, than the national anthem. Most people simply consider it a beautiful Maori song. However it has an interesting history.


In 1912, in a small settlement on the east coast of New Zealand, a young Maori couple fell deeply in love. Their names were Paraire and Kuini. The couple wanted to marry, but Kuini’s family were strongly opposed to the match. They did not like or approve of Paraire and refused to let her have anything to do with them.


Paraire was desperate. He had to prove to Kuini’s family that he would be a good husband and provider. He wrote a love letter to Kuini, vowing to love her forever. As this did not seem enough to impress her parents he turned the letter into a most passionate, heartfelt song—“Pokarekare Ana.” He then arranged to meet her family at a famous marae in Gisborne. A marae is a meeting place where important discussions are held.


It must have been a highly stressful situation for Paraire as he went to meet Kuini’s family and the local Maori elders of the tribe. However, Paraire gave a passionate declaration of his love and won the family over. They gave their consent to the marriage, and Paraire and Kuini enjoyed a long and happy life together. They were blessed with eight children and many grandchildren.


Where did the song that so impressed Kuini’s family come from? “Pokarekare Ana” is a beautiful melodious song that was drawn from the very depths of Paraire’s soul. It was written with the single purpose of winning over Kuini’s family so that he could marry her . It showed enormous originality and creativity, but Paraire never demonstrated these qualities again after winning Kuini’s hand.


Bentreshyt and Pharaoh Sety the First


This extraordinary story of a soul mate relationship that lasted 3,000 years has been the topic of countless magazine articles, and became internationally known when Jonathan Cott and Hanny El Zeini wrote their best-selling book The Search for 0mm Sety.


The final chapter of the story began on January 16, 1904, when Dorothy Eady was born in London. At the age of three she fell down a flight of steps and was pronounced dead. The doctor went to get a death certificate. When he returned an hour later Dorothy was sitting up and playing a game on the bed. Shortly after this, Dorothy began having recurring dreams in which she saw a large building with columns, beside a beautiful garden. Often, during the day, her parents would find her crying for no apparent reason. When they asked what the problem was, Dorothy would reply , “I want to go home.”


At the age of four, her family took her on an outing to the British Museum. When they reached the Egyptian galleries, Dorothy raced around the room kissing the feet of all the statues she could reach. When the family wanted to move on, Dorothy sat beside a mummy in a glass case and refused to move. The family left her there and returned thirty minutes later. Again, she refused to move, and her mother picked her up to carry her out. Dorothy immediately said, “Leave me . . . these are my people! “


A few months later, Dorothy’s father brought home part of an encyclopedia that contained photographs and drawings of ancient Egypt. Dorothy was fascinated with these, particularly a full-page photograph of the Rosetta Stone. She would study this photograph for hours, using a magnifying glass to see the hieroglyphics. When her mother commented that this was a language that Dorothy did not know, the small girl replied that she did know it, but had forgotten it.


When Dorothy was seven, her father brought home some magazines. One contained a photograph of the Temple of Sety the First in Upper Egypt. Dorothy ran to her father exclaiming, “This is my home! This is where I used to live!” Needless to say, Dorothy’s parents were disturbed and worried about their daughter. Their concern increased when Dorothy found a photograph of the mummy of Sety the First. She ran to her father again, telling him that she knew Sety the First and that he was a kind man. Dorothy’s father had had enough. He yelled at his daughter that the man in the photograph had been dead for three thousand years and she could not possibly have known him. Also, he was probably not a nice man. Dorothy ran to her room in her tears, and slammed the door shut behind her.  As she grew older, Dorothy began taking days off school to visit the British Museum. She met Sir E. A. Wallis Budge, the celebrated author and keeper of Egyptian and Assyrian Antiquities, who taught her how to read hieroglyphics.


At the age of fourteen, Sety visited her for the first time. Dorothy was asleep, but woke up when she felt a weight on her chest. She was surprised, but overjoyed, and cried out. Her mother came rushing in to the room and Dorothy had to explain that she had had a nightmare. She could not explain how her brand-new night-dress had come to be torn.


At the age of twenty-nine Dorothy married a young Egyptian man who took her back to Cairo to live. Her husband had no idea at the time that he was competing with a long-dead pharaoh for his wife’s love. At this time, Dorothy had just vague impressions about her past life with Sety, hut shortly after she arrived in Egypt he began appearing on a regular basis. In her second year in Egypt, Dorothy began getting out of bed in the middle of the night and, without fully waking, transcribed the words that were dictated to her by a “gentleman” known as Hor-Ra. Over a period of two years a full account of her previous life emerged.


In this past life Dorothy was called Bentreshyt (which means “Harp-of-Joy”). She was the child of a vegetable- seller and a soldier who served at a barracks about one mile from Sety’s temple. Her mother died when she was only two. Her father felt unable to look after her on his own and took her to the temple to be brought up as a priestess of Isis . At the age of twelve, she was asked if she wanted to remain in the temple or move out into the world and find herself a husband. Bentreshyt knew no other life than that of the temple. As she was happy there, she decided to stay. This meant that she had to pledge to remain a virgin as she, in effect, became temple property.


Two years later, Sety came to Abydos to see how work was progressing on his new temple. One day he was in the gardens and heard someone singing. It was Bentre-shyt. He asked her to join him. He was obviously captivated by this beautiful, fourteen-year-old girl with blond hair and blue eyes. Her great-grandfather had come from the Greek islands, and Bentreshyt’s fair complexion made her stand out from everyone else at the temple. Sety and Bentreshyt saw each other several times after that, and soon became lovers. This was an appalling sin as Bentreshyt was temple property and a virgin princess of Isis. To make matters even worse, Bentreshyt became pregnant.



Sety had to leave Abydos to attend to some problems in Nubia. While he was away, Bentreshyt was interrogated and finally admitted that her lover was Sety. Her crime against Isis meant that death was the only possible penalty. However, this would have involved a trial and people would discover that Sety had violated a princess of Isis. To protect her lover, Betreshyt committed suicide. When Sety returned, he was devastated by the news, and vowed never to forget her.


After three years of marriage in this lifetime, Dorothy and her husband divorced. Jt was a relief for both, and it freed Dorothy to pursue her love and work on Egyptian antiquities. After much persuasion, the Antiquities Department finally transferred Dorothy to Abydos in the 1950s, and she spent the rest of her life in the place that she had always called “home.” She became known as “0mm Sety,” which means “Mother of Sety.”


The intriguing aspect of Dorothy’s life in Egypt is that Sety visited her regularly, sometimes on the astral plane, but also in the flesh. He was able to materialize in her home where they were able to make love. This side of their relationship ended when she was transferred to Abydos. Sety explained to her that once again she was becoming temple property, and that neither of them could afford to make the same mistake again. He told her that both of them were being tested and, if they were able to resist temptation, their sin would be forgiven and they could then be together for eternity.


Although they were no longer able to make love together, the visits continued throughout Dorothy’s life. She knew that few people would believe them, so confided in just a few people, and recorded her other life in her journal.


These are just a few examples of the countless stories that could be told of historical soul mate relationships. Most such relationships have, of course, been lost in the mists of time. Fortunately, more and more stories are being recorded. An excellent example is the case of Elizabeth and Pedro, who had been lovers many times over the centuries, and found each other again in this lifetime thanks to the help of their psychiatrist, Dr. Brian Weiss. Only Love is Real, his fascinating account of their story, was published in 1996.


Of course, most soul mate relationships are never, never recorded. The people involved are usually aware that they are in a special type of relationship, which they may or may not describe as being a soul mate relationship.


Finding your soul mate is obviously an important part of the process. Keeping your soul mate is just as important, as we will discuss in the next chapter.




NOW - - IN CONCLUSION


There are experiences you need to go through first. You may have to experience a difficult relationship, or two, first. Maybe you need to learn patience.


Remain confident that your soul mate is out there, and that he or she is also looking for you also. When you finally meet, and you will, the period of waiting will seem like nothing. Remember, that even—and perhaps, especially—in a soul mate relationship, you must tend and nurture the relationship. You have already had many countless lifetimes together, and learned many, many things. The two of you have the potential to make enormous progress in this incarnation. Please - -Do not waste the opportunity by letting your soul mate slip away.


Did you know that scientists have discovered that falling in love usually involves a degree of mental illness? A team of Italian scientists, under the leadership of Dr. Donatella Marazziti, a psychiatrist at the University of Pisa, believe that this is the case. They have found that people suffering from obsessive compulsive disorders (OCD) have about 40 percent less serotonin in their systems than normal people. People who are in love also have about 40 percent less serotonin in their systems.


They took blood samples from seventeen men and three women who were in love, and compared it to blood samples from twenty people suffering from the (OCD) obsessive compulsive disorder, and twenty other people who were not in love and had no psychiatric problems. The volunteers who were in love or suffered from the disorder had 40 percent less serotonin than the other volunteers. Interestingly, when the people who were in love were tested again twelve months later, after the first intensity of being in love had faded, their serotonin levels were back to normal.


Dr. Marazziti says: “It’s often said that when you’re in love, you’re a little bit crazy That may be true.”’ Interestingly enough, William Shakespeare knew this some

four hundred years ago. In Act Three, Scene 2 of Shakespeare’s As You Like it, Rosalind says, “Love is merely a madness.” Of course, Rosalind was so madly in love with Orlando.


Find your soul mate and you can remain “a little bit crazy,” and deeply in love forever. “Good Hunting.”



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